By Flea - Be A Survivor
It can be kind of nice to live out in the boonies with no one around for miles. No one around to bother you, no one around to ask to borrow something, no one around to hear your screams after an accident leaves you incapacitated and unable to walk.
Therein lies the problem my friends, being alone is just that. Not having anyone to help you in the event of a crisis situation, there will be no running to the neighbor’s house to use a phone or get some assistance lifting that heavy object off your family members crushed legs.
Hey don’t get me wrong, some neighbors are total pains in the ass, but me personally I would like someone within a half mile or mile of my house given a choice. Not screaming distance for sure but if I had to haul ass over there it would be less than 10 minutes or so running (I have put on a few pounds since my 6 minute mile days).
Therein lies the second dilemma, having a good relationship with those around you. My wife and I have never had problems with neighbors and we have lived in several locations across two states. The reasons for this are simple:
1.) We are relatively quiet.
2.) We mind our frickin business.
3.) We are friendly – a friendly wave or saying “hi” never hurt anyone.
Those are the golden rules of being a neighbor; if you abide by them your neighbor will never have a problem with you.
Third problem, what if I am a good neighbor but the “other guy” never heard of these rules you speak of. Unfortunately, if you have bad neighbors I would suggest you move. Having bad neighbors is a source of unneeded stress that can make your blood boil. You will hate coming home because that “jerk” is standing on his front lawn reporting your recent troop movements to the rest of the desperate housewives crowd on the block while his degenerate horde of demon spawn are using your brand new F-250 pickup as a backstop for the one amongst them who can’t catch a baseball to save his life.
All kidding aside, depending on how bad things are you may be able to deal with it. I will say this though, if things are bad, they will never get better, trust me. Your best hope will be that they move…
Having good neighbors though really does make your situation better. There is someone you can count on if there is an emergency. There is someone you can have watch your property when you are away. There is someone to help you with that helping hand, whatever it may be for, when you need it. You, in return, should extend the same courtesies to your neighbor as they do to you; never let the relationship become one-sided in either direction.
The fine line becomes staying friendly and crossing that nosy neighbor boundary we all have. One way to do that is don’t offer up to much information about yourself unless you feel it is necessary for the relationship to develop. My mom had a bad habit of reporting all the family issues to the nosy lady upstairs when I was a kid and before I knew it everyone in the neighborhood knew our business.
Have a cordial relationship and offer up the standard fare like what you do for a living, name, rank and serial number. Keep it that simple unless you start to feel the relationship warrants it. "Those relationships" with neighbors are few and far between unfortunately.
Maintaining OPSEC is critical, we do it with our family as well. No one knows how much money my wife and I make or what bills we have or what any of our “problems” are and to be honest we like it that way. If we don’t share this with family, I sure as hell am not sharing it with a neighbor.
I don’t want to know that little Suzie is pregnant or that you have problems with your mother-in-law. That is more information than our neighborly relationship requires. If you keep it simple, the relationship will flourish and you will have that lifeline a few hundred feet away when you need it should a crisis develop. Be a good neighbor will ya?
...that is all.
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